Pushing On When You're In A Slump

Life seems to be really unfair sometimes doesn’t it?

When the going gets tough we can get so caught up looking at other people’s lives wondering, “Why can’t my life be like theirs?? It seems so perfect! They have the perfect job with the perfect family, and the dream house, etc.” Admit it, you’ve done that if not once, then several times in your life, and I am not afraid to admit that I am just as guilty as you are.

When I feel like I am in a slump in my life, I find myself very vulnerable to negativity, and being down on myself. Because I am naturally very hard on myself, when I feel like I have hit a wall or am being held back by circumstances or negative people, I tend to spiral even faster. I have ZERO motivation, and I wonder when I will see the light at the end of the seemingly endless tunnel.

When I find myself there, I do all that I know to get out of that negative space. I read my Bible, I pray, I focus my energy on the positive—or at least try to—take a weekend trip and it still seems like I am stuck. More often than not, when I feel panicked because I feel stuck and feel like God is not working fast enough, I always hear His still voice telling me to be patient.

Now let me tell you, patience is not one of my strongest virtues, and in a world that is constantly seeking instant gratification, it’s hard to be patient when you don’t see a light at the end of the tunnel.

From friend to friend, I can tell you that once I listen to that voice, and implement the little bit of patience that I do have, life gets better. God is able to go to work in my life since I finally have my hands out of it, and I get to sit back and enjoy the ride, somewhat. The visual I like to give is that you are panicking, treading water and exhausting yourself. But in reality, the water is only four feet deep, and you could have just stood up the whole time instead of exhausting yourself.

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So what I’m trying to get across to you, is that even though you may be in a slump right now, you Will pull through. You Will be okay. Life can be tough, but you are even tougher. I once read an article about a Navy Seal and their 40% rule. Long story short, the Navy Seal explained that when you feel like your mind is telling you that you’re done and need to quit, you are only 40% done. You have to find it within yourself to keep pushing. I have always remembered that article as well as a saying that my dad used to always tell us when we would complain about something silly as kids: “Get tough or die.” As silly as it sounds, his words always ring through my head when I catch myself complaining or feeling like there is no end to a bad day because I know that I only have two options, and I would much rather get tough.

All in all, I’ve learned that life is too short to let the crappy people or situations get you down. In the not so glamorous times, don’t forget to remind yourself that you have made it through 100% of the bad days so far, so you have all the reason to keep on going. If you do feel like you need a moment to scream or cry, as my very good friend Cynthia always said, “Give yourself five minutes of crying and pouting, then put that energy towards finding a solution.”

Hopefully as you’re done reading this entry it will have helped you not only smile, but give you the motivation to keep going, and ignite the fire in the fighter I know you have in you! So keep your head up, eye on the prize and remember..YOU GOT THIS!

Love Always,
Ashley

P.S. I have attached the link here to the Story of the Navy Seal’s 40% rule just for you!